All of us are considerate of ourselves and considerate of others in what we say and do. Where we fall on how considerate (or not) of self and others shapes our values and informs our actions. Problems can come up when there is a misalignment or imbalance on these two scales and an adjustment may be needed.
So, it turns out I have ADHD! // ¡Resulta que tengo TDAH!
Commitment Issues? Maybe it’s rOCD // ¿Problemas de falta de compromiso? Tal vez sea TOCr
Have you ever heard of Relationship Obsessive Compulsive Disorder? Admittedly, I didn’t know much beyond what I could surmise from its name until I read Marriage and Family Therapist Sheva Rajaee’s book, “Relationship OCD - A CBT Guide to Move Beyond Obsessive Doubt, Anxiety & Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships”. Right off the bat, I have to acknowledge that Relationship Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (rOCD) isn’t formally recognized by the DSM (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), but the more I learn about it, the more I recognize it in my work with clients and the culture at large (ahem, the recent season of Love is Blind 👀).